What is this?
This is a practice in self-understanding and accepting what is, with the help from another person.

My first priority is to give you an opportunity to understand yourself. I believe no one can do it better than you, but you need an intelligent mirror that reflects back to you so that you can see through your own, your friends’ and society’s projections. When we try to work on our own, we very easily get distracted. I help you stay on course. See me as a mirror, an objective experiencer that provides you with a bigger picture than just your own perspective. The point is to see the truth, not the judgements.

I am not a doctor or expert of any kind. I do not offer solutions and new plans. This is neither therapy nor psychoanalysis.You might have some success and understanding in various areas such as spirituality, relationships, work-issues or life purpose because of this work. The point is still self-awareness. To relax and feel welcomed in what is.

How does this work?
We meet and you tell me what is happening to you, whatever is on your mind. I can answering questions you might have but the exploring is mostly led by you. I help you stay on course. I remind you of yourself. I listen to you with my full attention, letting you be who you are.

Everything is strictly confidential. (I might consult my own teachers on rare occasions for a wider perspective but I will never give any information that can lead to you.)

Why do I do this?
I do this because it interests me deeply and I think it is a part we miss in our society. My own experience is that it is quite hard to find people who are willing to see you as you are and so we dare less to be ourselves. More and more people ask me to do this and it is also a practice for me and a service to the community.

Experience:

Some of my influences:
A.H. Almaas, David Deida, Ken Wilber, Gabriel Cousins, Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, Deepak Chopra, Stephen Levine, Anthony Robbins and my mentor Eva Skoglund.

Important: I do not represent any of these schools, ideas or methods in any way. Nor am I trying to imitate their work. But I believe that anyone who is interested in a spiritual practice should get to know about other works on an on-going basis and also have a community for support and learning. I consider this a vital part of my own practice.

Contact me:
Send me an email where you describe yourself, your background and what is currently on your mind. This is for me to get to know you a little better and to see if we can work. All information is strictly confidential. Also feel free to ask me more.

Men’s Group Purpose:
This group is open for ALL MEN no matter what sexual orientation, political views, ethnicity or religious background.

Background
Many of us have lost contact with our male community like fathers, brothers and trusted friends. Even though society can appear “too masculine”, a kind of money, “go-getter” win or lose – world, there is also a newer prevailing view that masculine is bad, macho, violent and out of touch. More and more men feel lonely, confused and under-valued, and unsure of their identity. Most men have a belief that “a man should take care of his own problems alone”, but at the same time, most men secretly feel this is a burden. I believe that there are many unexplored masculine sides, much deeper than the stereotype that has been bad-mouthed so much for the last 30 years. Even though we have advanced as a culture, I also think it is true that many men are very confused about their roles and how to behave, and at times even feel guilty for their gifts and desires. I am not talking about going back to old abusive ways, but to continue forward and integrate and evolve what we are, without condemning parts of ourselves. When we try to hide what we are, we become more neurotic and stuck, and this can cause us to lash out unconsciously when our desires go unfulfilled. Often these damaging habits do not serve us or those around us. By understanding and accepting what we are, we will gain more purpose in life, and gain strength and love for ourselves, those around us, and for the whole world. Realizing who we are is a gift for the world, as is everybody else, and with this realization comes a feeling of freedom.
Many of us have a feeling of “having to spend time” with our partners instead of being there fully. By having a deeper purpose in life, you align everything you do to it, and so you do what you want to do whole-heartedly, all the time. Spending time with other men, will greatly improve your interest in your family and partner, and it can be a great way to discover more of whom and what you are.
Samuel Törnqvist

This is a practice group for men who wish to learn from other men’s wisdom and develop their own depth. This is a self-awareness/self-realization group. We work with questions like:

• What is my purpose in life?
• How can I be more present, open and free in this moment?
• How can I serve myself, my partner, my family, my community and the world?
• What does it mean to be an adult male and how do I become one?

The meetings (on-going)
We meet every other week and for a maximum of two hours, during which members talk about what they are going through, and anything they would like help and advice with.
A member can choose to receive advice or not. Sometimes to be heard is all there is to it. Still, this group is more about how you can gain freedom in your life, and what you can do about your situation, rather than just emoting, even though that of course is an essential aspect as well.
If a member chooses to, we can suggest to him a task to fulfill that will aid him to deal with the present challenge.
There also might be simple practices and exercises to make us more present and focused, or to learn something new. It is helpful, but not essential, if you have some meditation experience.

It is not easy to look at oneself. If several men agree about you they are probably right.

Men’s Group Mission statement:

• This is a group for men who want to practice/learn more about themselves and how to serve their community and family in a masculine way. Explore the depth, the light and dark sides of masculinity.
• This group is for men who are aware of both their masculine and feminine sides and are able to utilize them both. (the way I put it, masculine stands for consciousness/emptiness and feminine stands for life/fullness and neither is gender specific)
• This group is for men who want to give from their heart/truth/depth to help and advise other men so they can learn and grow. At the same time, be willing to reflect on themselves with the help of other members.
• We do not follow a specific dogma or path but each member brings their own wisdom and insights that will help us all to have a greater understanding. The goal is also to see our consciousness as a part of everything and therefore, learn to respect the community/world mind.
• Listening and understanding is one of the most important things that we do. There will be a high priority on making sure you can say what you need to say and that we understand you. Understanding does not mean agreeing, but giving another person space and seeing that as an important part of the whole truth.
• Even though there are guidelines, they are essentially just my ideas written here. This is not about becoming Samuel’s group, but hopefully it will evolve with the wisdom of us all. I bring my ideas, you bring yours and we all learn more. Our ideas aid us, they do not compete. As Ken Wilber says: “No one is smart enough to be a hundred percent wrong.”

If you are interested, write me and tell me a little about yourself. Feel free to ask me more via email.